Ever notice that when people say, “oh, grow up!” to you they don’t really mean that you need to grow up? Rooting around the subtext of this command, I find that often times they mean, “you are not behaving in a fashion that fits my accepted values, and therefore it scares me, or at least makes me a tid bit uncomfortable.” I get this quite a bit. Usually when I’ve made a mature decision that benefits me as opposed to someone else. Like ending bad relationships, or choosing to not have children, or picking a career that I’ll find fun. If you think that dictating what people’s lives should look like because you don’t feel comfortable with other’s choices… you grow up. The world is not your nursery.